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Wednesday, February 1, 2012

If the Ship is a Rockin'

My family and I returned from our first big trip last week. Two days at Disney World and then three days on the Weezer Cruise, sponsored by Carnival Cruise Line. For those who might not know, Weezer is a rock band that has been around for 20 years.
(My husband’s stepbrother thought it was a cruise for people with asthma. LOL)

If you’ve never been on a concert cruise, it’s noisy. But the Weezer fans were surprisingly courteous, and I didn’t hear much of anything after midnight. Except for a two brief outburst from the guy next door. The second night at sea I was ripped from a deep sleep by a male voice wailing, “I don’t want to die alone.” I debated climbing from bed to make sure he wasn’t standing on the balcony railing preparing to jump, but then I thought he wouldn’t be alone if I went out there. It just seemed less risky to go back to sleep.

The next morning I mentioned the incident to my husband, and he told me it was the anthem of single people. I haven’t been single for a while, but it seems like I would have remembered that song. The last night at sea the same guy woke me up again. “I don’t care if she gets friendly with a different guy every night,” he said. “Good for her. Good for her.” (Edited for G rating)

I don’t know if it was the social worker or romance author in me that wanted to give him a hug, but the sadness in his voice broke my heart. I was reminded of how tough it can be to be single when you really want to fall in love and get married. Meeting potential partners who want the same thing seems especially hard.


Maybe the English had it right. Regency romances often make use of the marriage mart in London as a meeting place for the hero and heroine. Social events during the Season provided opportunities for eligible gentlemen and young ladies to mingle for the purpose of making a match. Granted, love wasn’t necessarily factored into the arrangement. Couples married to improve their status, to increase the family funds, or to build political alliances. But at least they had a place to go where they knew people were looking for the same thing.

So, here’s an idea, Disney Cruise Line. Why don’t you have a cruise just for people looking for a happily ever after?

And here’s a question for readers: How did your parents or grandparents meet?

**Leave a comment with your email address to be entered into a drawing for an autographed copy of my debut book Miss Hillary Schools a Scoundrel. (The story just happens to open in a London ballroom.)

43 comments:

  1. Sounds like an interesting cruise :). My parents met at the local roller rink.

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    1. Jane,

      I've spoken to a few couples who met at a roller rink. I find that very charming. (Of course, it was a different scene a long time ago.) :)

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  2. My parents met through my aunt who was my mom's best friend in High School. A year later I came into the picture LOL. I actually don't know how either set of my grandparents met. Now you have me wondering lol.
    (I've won twice through this site so I am not leaving my email lol)

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    1. Misty,

      Friends are great for set ups. Do you know if it was a blind date?

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    2. No I don't think it was. She was just at my dad's house a lot.

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    3. LOL. So he thought, "Well, she's around all the time. I might as well marry her." ;D

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  3. My parents met in college. My mother was dating my father's roommate and they did a lot of double-dating back then (I don't hear much about that these days). When Mom broke up with the first guy, my dad asked her out.

    I have been planning to read this book but would LOVE to win a signed copy. Please enter my name in the drawing.

    Thanks, Laura
    heartoftexasbooks[at]yahoo[dot]com

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    1. Laura,

      I don't hear many people talk about double dating now either. Was your dad's roommate mad at him for asking her out?

      Thanks for commenting. I have you in the drawing. :)

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  4. Samantha ~ I don't want to die alone. I can completely relate to your poor shipboard neighbor.

    Let's see. My parents met at a church function, which is laughable now if you know either of them.

    And my grandparents... Well, now I'm not sure *how* they met. I'm going to have to call my grandmother and find out. I do know that while they were "courting" my grandfather was in the merchant marines during WWII and my grandmother wrote him very sparingly. He was pretty ticked about the whole thing and would have written her off if they hadn't bumped into each other on the street once he got back. No idea why my grandmother was a poor correspondent. Perhaps because she was a single mother at the time...?

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    1. Ava,

      I love the story about your grandparents! :)

      Would you go on a cruise designed for people who are serious about finding a real relationship? If I was single, I would.

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    2. I don't think I would. I love cruising, but I don't think I'd do a singles cruise. People come from all over, and I kindof need to find someone who lives nearish to me.

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    3. Good point. Hmm, maybe a local coffee house just for people who are serious about finding love and commitment. They could call it Coffee Mates. LOL

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    4. LOL! I think you may be on to something. Trademark that idea before someone else gets it. ;)

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  5. My dad's parents were married for 72 years, and my grandpa knew he wanted to marry my grandma on first sight. She was walking to school (she was in high school) & he was working outside, I think at a lumber mill. He saw her and told his brother that was the woman he was going to marry. There wasn't a huge age difference between them, so it's not as strange as it sounds. lol

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  6. My Grandparents came from the old country and I have no idea how they met. I myself love cruises and traveling.

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    1. Shelley,

      Wouldn't it be romantic if they met on the ship to America? Certainly not as luxurious as cruises now days. :D

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  7. Both my parents and grandparents met in bars...yea...I guess that is OK, though, when you come from my neck of the woods. My grandmother was looking for an escape from a hard life and so, to some degree, she settled. I am happy to say, she settled for a man who in his later years wrote letters to all his congressmen helping them see the err of their votes:) (Maybe my liberalism comes from him:) I hope so). My mother could fall into the Regency world's scandalous plots. She was engaged to a service man when she met my Dad. He had a nice car and she liked that about him (She tells the story about how she learned he was making payments on it only after they married). HAHA. Over the years she liked to remind him that the man she was engaged to was a wealthy business owner now, and we were, well...I did not grow up wealthy...BUT, my dad is nothing but a top notch man! So, could her story be that she married 'below' her-a member of the 'non-ton' but lived happily ever after:)

    Love your blogs, Samantha. And congrats again on the almost release date of your first book!!

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    1. Aw, thanks. Yay for your activist grandpa! I love it! And how funny about your mom, dad, and his car. lol

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  8. Great blog, Samantha!!

    My dad's parents met at a USO function during WWII. My grandmother's job was to teach soldier how to dance, and well, my grandfather was one of those soldiers. Hee!

    Apparently he *was* dating a woman from Australia (guess the Navy does go everywhere) via letters, but once he met my grandmother, that was it.

    My parents knew each other in high school but never really thought of each other that way. Anyway, they were set up on a blind-date right after my mom graduated high school. My dad was in the Marines and I guess my mom liked the way he looked in his uniform. :))

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    1. Marquita,

      Oh, my gosh! I loooove that your grandmother's job was teaching soldiers to dance. I have to know the backstory. Why was that important for soliders to know?

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    2. I think it was partly to give them something to do that kept them (the soldiers) out of trouble while they were in port. And they had all those USO dances to go to so they could meet pretty girls. :)

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  9. Great blog, Samantha! And I hope Disney's listening!

    My parents met because my father wanted to go out with my mom's sister. But my aunt was already dating the man who would become her husband of 45 years (and counting!). My dad was a bit of a charmer, lady's man sort so he thought maybe he could coax my aunt away. One of his friends poked fun at him and told him he'd have better luck getting into my mom's pants (a known reserved wallflower sort) than getting my aunt away from her beau. My dad, good-natured, took him up on the dare and asked my mom out.

    In romance-novel-fashion, they fell in love and apparently my mom, a true strong-romance-heroine prototype, made certain he had serious intentions before, ahem, letting him win his dare.

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    1. Marnee,

      What a fantastic story!!! It sounds like everyone won, except your dad's friend. lol

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  10. Well . . . let's just say my parents met at work. It's a little too scandelous to go into further details. It was the swinging 60s, ya know. I can't remember the story of how my grandparents met but I know they were 17 and 19 when they got married. I will have to check on that. Glad you had a great time on your vacation.
    Nancy
    meadornancy@hotmail.com

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    1. Nancy,

      Ooh, a scandal! Those are very popular in romance novels. :)

      Thanks for stopping by. I have your name in the drawing. If you win, you can taunt Dana. lol

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  11. My mom was a stewardess and my dad a gate worker. When she was boarding one day, he asked her name. She told him, and he then asked for her phone number. She gave him a saucy little grin (in my mind, anyway!) and told him it was in the phone book, lol! I love that she made him work for it. As for my grandparents, my mom's mom was a soda jerk as a teenager. My grandfather, only weeks before shipping overseas for WWII, came in one day and thought she was the prettiest thing he had ever seen :-)
    Happily Ever Afters...that is always my wish for everyone!

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    1. Me too, Erin. Happily Ever Afters all around.

      How awesome that your mom made your dad work for it. You go, girl!!!

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  12. That's the saddest cruise story I've ever heard, Samantha! Poor guy. :( My parents met in college--no cool stories there.

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    1. I know, Lily. I wanted to tell him she wasn't the one for him, and that true love doesn't take so much work in the beginning to get it going.

      My parents met in x-ray school, so their story isn't very cool either. :)

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  13. My parents were high school sweethearts. They went to school and lived near each other.

    I don't know how my Grandmothers met my grandfathers. Both of my grandfathers died before I was born so I never got told many stories. I know that my step-grandfather was a teacher with my grandfather before his wife and my grandfather died and my grandmother remarried.

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  14. Beth,

    How sweet about your parents. It's sad that your grandmother was a widow, but I'm always encouraged by second chance at love stories.

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  15. Samantha,
    Great blog! My grandparents met in church. They were married for 65 years! My parents grew up together. My mom had a crush on my father forever, but he always had a girlfriend. When she was in college and he was home from Vietnam, he asked her out. They married, but sadly did not stay together. As for Disney, are you sure they don't have a happily every after cruise? If not, that's a great idea!

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    1. Julie,

      Maybe I should write to Disney just in case. ;)

      I've rarely heard of people meeting in church, but it seems like that would be a good place to meet someone with similar values.

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  16. Congrats on the debut, Samantha!

    My dh and I went to the same high school, but never met there. We met in the basement of a fraternity Halloween party at a big college. He graduated a year ahead of me. I knew his best friend, he knew mine, we'd grown up within 20 minutes of each other, but had never crossed paths until that sticky dance floor! :-)

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    1. Thanks, Deb!

      Your husband dances? I seriously think I fell in love with my hubby because he'll dance with me. Oh, and he helped me find homes for the kittens the stray I took in had. :)

      Isn't that bizarre how close your worlds were and yet you'd never met. I guess the timing had to be just right.

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  17. Hi Samantha! So excited with your debut book. I love to read new book from new author that I never read before:D. A chance to win your book, yes please count me in:D.. My mom and my dad met through my great grandma. She was the one that introduced them to each other, aretha_zhen@yahoo.com

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    1. Aretha,

      How sweet! Your great grandma was looking out for them.

      I've added you to the drawing. Good luck!

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  18. I'm so excited about your debut, Samantha!

    Hmmm...how did my parents meet? They both worked at the same small-town store. Dad's parents met as kids at church. I'm not sure how Mom's parents met.

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    1. Thanks, Catherine. I'm very excited, too!

      Another "met at church" story. I love it! I can't tell you how many people I've interviewed over the years, and my most frequently asked question is "Where did you meet?" I can't remember anyone ever saying they met at church, but it seems like it would be a great place.

      I've heard the most common place for future spouses to meet is school and then work.

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  19. My parents were both from Scotland. They worked for 2 different very wealthy 'old money' families in NY in the 40's. My mother was a governess and my father was a chauffeur. Back then in the summer the rich would summer in Maine and the 'help' would have clam bakes and beach parties on their days off. They met at one of the clam bakes.

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    1. Sheila,

      What a great story! This reminds me a little of Downton Abbey. I find the servants more interesting than the nobility. :)

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  20. Sorry, forgot-

    smulholland62@msn.com

    Sheila

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