Do you ever have days where you think you have nothing to say? I was dinged in my inbox several days ago with a reminder that today was my day to blog on ladyscribes. My poor brain feels literally fried from trying to write two different novels in two different time periods at the same time and facing more changes to the beginning of one of them. I complained on the playground to my friend today that I literally felt like I had nothing to say.
My friend and I got to chatting about blogging and she told me I should read this blog called Hands Free Mama www.handsfreemama.com. This is an amazing blog! I encourage each of you to take the time to check it out. Her blog post today was about looking at the flip side of your child’s weakness and seeing it as a possible positive. This post touched me personally. I don’t usually get too intimate on my blogs, but I realized I just had to share my story.
Lately, my oldest boy, a second grader, has had a bit of a problem with a few older kids bullying him at school. Nothing too serious, but enough for him to feel bad about himself. My child is smart, sweet and funny. He is always kind to everyone, so I was especially angry that some other children would be picking on him. I talked to several people who told me boys just need to be tough. I questioned this. My son is tough enough, believe me. He has a little brother and they go at it all the time leaving bruises and tears in their wake. He plays every sport known to man and he is more than willing to stand in the freezing cold or boiling hot to excel and help bring his team to victory.
What my son hesitates to do is to respond to someone being mean to him by being mean back. Granted, I don’t want my son to let people push him around, but I never want to change the part of him that tries to reason and discuss and hesitates to use violence when there is undoubtedly another way. I realized today when reading the Hands Free Mama article what some people may see as my son’s weakness is his gift.
He is a negotiator and a thinker. How tragic if I were to try and change this about him. Perhaps he will someday be President of the
. Would you want someone leading the country who didn’t try to negotiate with the enemy before they pushed the button that sent us into nuclear war? I know I wouldn’t. United States
I am so glad I read the Hands Free Mama blog tonight, because it opened my eyes to appreciating the special gifts each of my children are bringing to this world. I have no doubt my child’s gift will change this world for the better one day.
I encourage each of you to look at your child’s weakness and try to flip it and see what strength may be found in that weakness. Have any of you ever perceived a weakness in yourself or someone you knew that turned out to be an amazing gift?
Have a thought provoking day!
Julie Johnstone, The Marchioness of Mayhem