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Wednesday, March 21, 2012

Ready, Set and On the Go!

After yesterday’s hot interview with cover model Jason Aaron Baca writers, readers, stay-at-home moms, working moms, and women in general need to look “hot” too. I think as women we tend to put ourselves last on the list. So I’m here to say it’s time to make that change.

Putting yourself first on the list doesn’t make you a bad person, it makes you a smart one because when you feel good, you get more done during the day. Or at least, I know I do.

I’m a mom first and foremost. I’m a writer, a taxi driver, a cook (although not a very good one) an accountant, a maid, and so many more things. And up until last November I held a full time job. Now that I'm home all the time, I seem to have less time than ever before and I’ve come to see that I can be lazy with my appearance. I tend to toss on a pair of sweat pants, throw my hair up in a pony tail, and head out the door. I'm guilty of doing it all too often. That’s the lazy girl’s way of getting through her day. I’m ready to make a change and put “mommy” first for once. It doesn’t matter if you work a full-time job or are a stay-at-home mom. We all do it. We forget to take care of number one. Ourselves.

I’m here to say that just because we’re moms-on-the-go doesn’t mean we have to give up “looking nice” or feeling good about ourselves. So I’m on a mission to find my stay-at-home style. I refuse to look like a frumpy old maid yet. I have more than a few years left on the grid. And it’s time I did something about it.

So spring is here and I’ve devised a few quick, easy steps to “looking good on the go.”

1.           Loose clothing tends to be what we normally reach for when we think of comfort and while that’s not all bad, keep it in perspective. If you wear a loose shirt then match it up with some super chic stretchy jeans or pants. It’s cute and we need flexibility when we’re on the move.


2.           Pony tails are easy but it’s just as easy to toss your hair up into a quick twist and it helps elongate your neck, giving you a graceful quality to your look.


3.  Layers! It’s all about the layers. Wearing a cute little strappy top with a light sweater or cardigan is not only comfortable but fashionable.

4.           Accessories are a must, even in a pair of sweat pants, wearing a great clunky bracelet can make the outfit pop.







So how about you? Do you get more done when you look good? What do you like to wear when you’re on the go? Where do you get your mommy gear? Do you shop online or at your local mall? And how many of you have really put yourself first on the to-do list? Perhaps it's time to make a pledge to do so now?   

35 comments:

  1. I am very guilty lately of putting myself last after writing. But ... I joined the local gym today after a very long absence so by this time tomorrow I should be in serious pain. LOL. That's step one for me. I've got some lovely clothes I'm dying to get back into.

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    1. LOL that's excellent news, Heather! Hubby and I were just talking about doing this very same thing yesterday. I know you can do it and I can't wait to see you in those lovely clothes!

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  2. Oh Suzie- Currently I'm the queen of frump, I throw on whatever I can find. I consider this more lazy mom syndrome where you go oh i just don't have the time and no one really cares what I look like cause I'm a mom. Then there is my hair. Yes my hair I don't know what to do with it. I can't wear it down all the time, because it just gets heavy. So it is usually in a bun or a ponytail. I should do more with it, but I just don't. To bad I don't have a maid to make all pretty for. Currently I'm trying really hard not to cut it. Trying. I want to grow it out and then chop it off and donate it to locks of love. However, I have about 7 inches go, so I don't end up with a pixie cut, hubby would kill me if I did that. To bad I don't live in the south, my hair grew like a weed there.
    Anyways, I guess there is more I could do so I'm not queen of frump or continue to suffer from lazy mom syndrome.
    Thanks for the post as we all try to improve ourselves this day.

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    1. Melody, I know exactly what you mean though, time is so rushed, things are so chaotic in my house sometimes that I simply don't think about what do I need to do for me today. But it's my goal this year to make a few changes and one of them happens to be taking better care of myself and making myself look nice on a daily basis. We'll see if I can do it. I believe we can all do it, sometimes it's just a matter of trying. Good luck to you!

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  3. Hi Suzie,

    I'm going to play Carrie Fisher in When Harry Met Sally and say "You're right, you're right, I know you're right."

    And then I'm going to pretend like I did not spend the last month and a half in yoga pants and my ratty writing sweater.

    Nope, not me!

    :-)

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    1. LOL Deb! Btw that is one of my all time fav movies! I love Meg Ryan! She is the queen of cute imho. But I have to agree I've spend the first half of this year in my pj's so I'm right there with you. But it's never too late to try so that's what I'm doing. Thanks for stopping by today!

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  4. I've tried to start looking better when I leave the house lately. Slowly but surely, the closet is being filled with cute, designer dresses, good jeans and slacks, and fashionable tops, and the sweats and t-shirts are making their way to Goodwill. It's been a slow process, but it's happening.

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    1. Yay! Catherine! It's so much easier to just throw on the sweatpants though, and I've been struggling with this too. Well good luck to you, Catherine. Here's to making it happen, girl!

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  5. Great post, Suzie! I joined Missus Smarty Pants to get realistic fashion advice. So far, her advice has helped a lot with my student/writer/mom lifestyle. I live in jeans, but try to jazz things up with cute flats, cardigans, and such. :)

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    1. I haven't heard of that, Lily but I may have to check it out. I think jeans are awesome but half the time I don't even into my closet to pull them out. I have a new love affair with stretchy jeans ladies. They are so comfortable and they look good. If you haven't tried them yet, do so! Thanks for stopping in Lily and good luck with Missus Smarty Pants! I'm definitely going to check that out!

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  6. Hey, Suzie.

    You and I must be on the same wavelength. Yesterday I finally made a hair appointment, which is much overdue. I dress professionally for work, but I'm guilty of hanging out in my yoga pants and t-shirt on my days off. Hmm... Now that you mention it, maybe I should start paying more attention. The only days my hubby tells me I look nice are work days. :D

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    1. Haircut!!! I'm so glad you mentioned this. I've got to make an appointment and get that taken care of. *sigh* These are the things I tend to forget when I've got myself under a deadline.

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    2. Make one for me, too, will ya LOL! So much to do and so little time! And get back to work on that book, everyone is waiting!!

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  7. I was/ am the same way, Samantha. I actually liked it when I was working because it forced me to get dressed up and I felt better. Last week I knew it was time to change it up. Now as far as the hair goes I really need to make that appointment and soon. So that's next on my to-do list. Thanks for the reminder LOL. Thanks for stopping in, Samantha!

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  8. Suzie ~ LOL! I was certain the camera must have been activated on my laptop and you wrote this about me. (1) Because I' a little bit arrogant and think a lot of things are about me. AND (2) Because I'm sitting in my office... hair in a pony tail, no make up, jeans and a stretchy shirt. (And I'm not working from home.) Why are you spying on me?!?! And then blogging about my lack of style?!?! I thought we were friends!

    LMAO. You're right though. I know I feel better when I look better. But there are only 24hours in a day. I think I need a personal assistant to get everything done that I need to get done.

    Shopping? It's like I said to Lily earlier in the week. I don't shop. I don't have time to shop. Thank God for the internet or I would be walking around nekkid.

    In all seriousness, great blog. Next time you're in town you can help me get more fashionable. Gulp. I might even go shopping.

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    1. ROFLMAO!! I swear I just can't help myself from spying on you and then talking about you...I guess I'm voyeuristic that way. I really need to get a hold on myself, geez! LOL

      All kidding aside you know I'm a jeans and tee-shirt kind of girl so this is all new territory for me, too. So we'll just have to feel our way through this together. Wow, I don't think that came out right but you know what I mean LOL.

      And I would love to go shopping with you but it'll be like the blind leading the blind LOL. We'll just have to see where we end up that day and see if it's any better than where we were. I am determined though to make this work, although I'm sitting here still in my pj's atm...I'll work on it a little later lol. Thanks for dropping in!

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    2. Samantha ~ Then my day is complete. ;) LOL

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    3. (1) Because I'm a little bit arrogant and think a lot of things are about me. OMG!!! Ava this made me laugh so hard. You are awesome, b/c I'm *paranoid* that people are talking about me. LOVE IT!!!!

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    4. Marquita ~ So if I hear people talking about you, do you want me to tell you or not? ;) LOL!

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    5. Only the good stuff...unless you need me for your world domination plan. Then you might want to get me on *your* side. I've got mad sekrit skillz that can be utilized. Skills that are so super sekrit that I don't even know them. ;)

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    6. Does Tammy know you agreed to go shopping???????

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    7. I didn't say I'd go shopping with Tammy. LOL. Actually, I have a whole list of people I won't go shopping with and the one at the very top is my BFF Becky. I love her to death. But I won't go shopping with her. ;)

      Tammy might be ok to shop with. I don't know..

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  9. Great post, Suzie.

    You know pinterest has great outfit ideas, which I love b/c I can't mix and match. I'm fashion challenged--in fact I have to take Hot Builder with me b/c I'm so bad. Beyond the basics anyway.

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    1. LOL Marquita! Does hot builder have great fashion sense? Is there anything that man can't do?? I love that he helps you out though, that is super cute. I'll have to check out the pinterest outfits when I finally get around to the site. It seems like time just slips away sometimes. Maybe some of these tips will help us all out. Thanks for stopping in!

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    2. ha! I think he goes b/c he's afraid I'll end up dressing like a cross b/w Punky Brewster and Elizabeth Taylor--lots of bling with crazy patterns.

      Then again, I've seen what he wears to play golf in...lol!

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  10. Thank God for my 2 day a week job at Jared's- otherwise I'd never get out of sweats! It's nice to have a reason to wear makeup and curl my hair. And my poor husband lives for those 2 days when I don't greet him looking like an extra from Swamp Thing!

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    1. I find it hard to believe anyone could ever mistake you for anything from Swamp Thing. LOL.

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  11. Lessons I Learned From My Grandmother:

    1. Always get dressed as soon as you get up in the morning so if the doorbell rings your not embarrased.

    2. Always dress as if your going to work that day - even if the work is being done around the house.

    3. Always remember to wear your white gloves if your going shopping "downtown".

    4. Before you leave the house check your shoes and make sure they are poished and clean.

    5. If it's Sunday remember to wear your hat.

    6. Be sure your skirt is below your knees.

    If I remember correctly there were a few more items on my Grandmother's list as well but the one habit of hers that I have never been able to break is to get dressed as soon as getting up in the morning!

    When my sons were toddlers I found that shopping at the local consignment shops was not only a great money saver but also allowed me to buy that "trendy" outfit without feeling guilty about spending money on something you knew would only be "in" for one season.

    Another good tip is to look at photos of yourself or your parents at different times over the years. You might be surprised at some great ideas you get for comfortable classic new to you "old style" clothing that was made during a time period whose design is still "classic" and comfortable over the ages.

    After all if your looking for a new old look just think of what Cleopatra might have worn on a warm summer day and you'll have the perfect outfit in mind when shopping for beach wear or a grand night out!

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    1. I really wish your grandmother had taught me to get dressed first thing in the morning. I did a little better with it when I was going to the library or the coffee shop to write, but now that I'm staying home and working in my office? Yeah, I often don't put clothes on until after lunch.

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    2. My grandmother was the same way. The moment your feet hit the floor you had to get dressed. I find it sad that kind of pride in appearance has been lost to time. We're all so busy that we forget to take care of ourselves but at the same time, I know what it's like to just want a day to stay in my sweats and pjs lol. I love your grandmother's rules and I plan to strive to dress nice at least several days a week but every day is a stretch for me lol. With three boys and one of them just 4 yrs old, it's a wonder I get anything done for myself. Thanks for sharing this with us, Jeanne! It was fun to read!

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  12. Jeanne, your grandmother would be severely distressed at what the teenaged girls wear to school these days! Pajamas and those ugg boots?

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    1. So true. The girls at my son's middle school are a sight! (Not a pretty one.)

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  13. Deb and Ava,

    Hard to believe that when I went to High School there was a dress code! The girls had to wear skirts or dresses (no skirts above the knees and no pants allowed) and the boys had to wear pants (no jeans, no shorts) and socks with their shoes (sneakers were only allowed for gym class).

    Of course no matter the age or sport they also ALSO KEPT SCORE. Yup, you actually had to learn what learning was really like to prepare yourself for the future and lose with grace.

    As children we also had to do chores because we were part of the family and didn't get paid to do it. Allowance was given to help us learn to how to manage money and if you wanted something you had to save up and buy it yourself.

    I saw a test that was given to students in the 8th grade back in the 1800's that most High School seniors wouldn't pass today.

    Are we really better off now then we were then? Are our children better behaved? Do they honor their parents? Hum, somehow I don't think so.

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