Wednesday, April 25, 2012
A Trip to Cougartown
When I first met Helena**, she was newly divorced and had two girls almost in high school. Since our first chat, Helena has become involved in a serious relationship with a man who has never had kids. She’s young enough to have another child, but with her daughters almost out of school, she isn’t sure she wants to start over. Yet, part of her remembers what it was like holding a sweet, tiny newborn, and how precious that time was.
For me, there would be no question or angst. I love my kids, but there is no way I would start over. There are lots of things still on my bucket list I’d like to do before I’m too old to do them. I'm sure there are several women in my camp. Then again, there are women my age, like my brother’s wife, who remarry and happily jump into the baby scene again. Don't you think this comes up fairly often these days with more older women dating or marrying younger men? I'm sure older men have been dealing with it for ages.
I bet there have always been marriages between older women and younger men, but I don’t remember hearing about these May September romances very often. Perhaps these unions were kept quiet, because they weren't looked upon favorably. Coo coo kachoo, Mrs. Robinson!
Thanks to Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher that glass ceiling was busted a while back. (It’s too bad their marriage didn’t work out.) Suddenly it became more acceptable for an older woman to pursue a younger guy. Some women began to identify themselves as cougars and sounded pretty darn proud about it. I say, more power to you, ladies. If you find your perfect match, don’t let age stop you. Same for all the single guys out there.
I bring this all up for the sake of conversation only. No one actually has to run out and find a hot, young guy or anything. But what do you think you would do if you had children in middle school or high school, and you were dating a younger man who wanted children of his own? Would you consider having another baby? Would you break off the relationship? Do you think there is a story somewhere in here? What about a story with a historical spin? Hmm.
**Helena is a fictional name that I really like and may use for a heroine some day.