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Tuesday, May 1, 2012

Here's to you, Mom


Hmm, what topic can I possibly write about after the massively fun posts on the Romantic Times Convention? Looks like everyone had a great time. Sadly, I couldn’t attend and for now it has to stay on my to-do list for the future. Maybe next year, or the one after. Who knows what will happen by then? But right now I’d better stay the course and dazzle you with ... Hmm, what about a subject dear to the hearts of all mothers?

Do you remember your first Mother’s Day?

I have to admit that after 19 years of motherhood, the precise details are slipping away. My son, bless his fiery red hair, arrived just in the nick of time. He arrived on the Friday, and I spent Sunday, my first Mother’s Day, stuck in Hospital.

If I remember correctly, I had visitors to see us both. My family came down to Sydney where we lived; my nephew tried to climb into the crib with his new cousin. (Seriously, climbing became my nephew’s thing. No fear. We should have seen the signs of the adventurer to come.)

But wheneveryone left, I’m pretty sure I cried. Mother’s day coincided with the day soon after you give birth where your hormones go to hell and new father’s shake their heads, wondering where their rational wife went. Anyway, the Mother’s Day present the hospital midwifes gave me (and to every mother admitted) was from my new child. They inked his tiny foot and stamped it onto Mother’s Day cards.

But it wasn’t the best day to give the hormones a helping hand. What new mother wouldn’t blubber at the sight of her child’s perfect little foot? (Post Natal Depression didn’t help, but that’s a whole other story -- and not for this post). Of course, that foot is now an earth grabbing size 12 and my 4kg baby is now six foot tall, and way too fond of reminding me I’m short by half a foot.

Over the years, I’ve had almost every type of Mother’s Day: weekends away, weekends away alone (precious break time), lunches, dinners, breakfasts in bed, big pressies, and precious little handmade cards.


Honestly, breakfast in bed and simple flowers are actually my favorite. No fuss, no rush, just relaxed time and my sons can come and go as they please. Later on, we trundle off to go see my mother so I can wait on her.

So with Mother’s Day in the near future, do you have a secret wish for the day? I’d love to hear the story of your first Mother’s Day (if you can remember) and whatyou’d like for yourself and your mum, too, this year.


Heather Boyd
~ Lady Wicked

26 comments:

  1. Hi Heather,

    Your Mother's Day sounds nice and relaxed. My first one, I was still in the not-enough-sleep comatose state of newborn care. I do remember I got a card from my dh and one from my mom, too.

    I think what I wanted most--and got--was a nap!

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    1. Yay on the nap. That's the like the holy grail for new mothers. :)

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  2. My first Mother's Day is a hazy memory. Our son was only four months old, and we were preparing to move to Wisconsin. It was a very tough year, but we had the perfect baby, so that was all the gift I needed.

    I would like it if my husband took over planning a Mother's Day celebration. He helps the kids get something for me, but my Mother's Day usually ends up being hectic because we have his mother and family over to celebrate.

    With my mom living far away, I'm not sure what I'll get her. Does anyone have any ideas?

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    1. At least I'm not alone in the hazy 'new mother' memory stakes. LOL I think I might only remember because there is photo proof of what whent on.

      Hmm, pressie ideas ... Is she a reader? If so, you could always get her a book light or I've seen little pillows designed to rest a book upon while you read them.

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  3. Great post, Heather! I really don't remember my first Mother's Day, though I think I got to take a well-deserved nap. I think my favorite Mother's Day was spent during our stay in North Carolina. I got a trip to the Ava Gardner museum in Smithfield and loads of outlet shopping. Best of both worlds!

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    1. There's an Ava Gardner museum? Wow. I miss out on so much trivia stuff by living here in Aus. Aside from the govt run museums, the best I can do is a motorcycle museum up the coast. LOL

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  4. I don't remember my first Mother's Day. The first two to three months after my daughter's birth is a blur for medical reasons. I usually get spoiled on Mother's Day (though I am spoiled a lot). Breakfast in bed, flowers and a box of chocolate. In the afternoon, I usually head to my mom's. I buy her annuals and get her gardens ready for the year (weeding and planting). That has been our tradition for years.

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    1. I'm sorry about your first mother's day but it seems your beautifully spoilt now. :) Pampering and then gardening for you mum sounds like a lovely tradition.

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  5. It's really sad I really don't remember my first mothers day. Honestly, I really don't remember to many cause my birthday is just a few days before mothers day and it just ends up getting all smash together. I know that's really sad. Maybe this year will be different.

    I'm sorry you had to spend your mothers day in the hospital thats no fun. I hope tht you have a wonderful mothers day this year and to everyone else. :)

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    1. When I was a kid, I used to have Christmas and Birthday mashed together so I can understand how Mother's day might lose it's specialness for you. Here's hoping you have a brilliant and memorable day this year. Happy Birthday too!

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  6. For years every Mother's Day meant a trip to the zoo. I love the zoo and we had a great stroller friendly zoo nearby when we lived in CA - The Santa Barbara Zoo! Since we've moved to NC, I haven't been. But all the kids will be home this Mother's Day, so I'm thinking this might be a great idea!! After all, there's only one day a year where everyone has to do what I want to do without complaining! LOL!!

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    1. Oh, I love going to the zoo. I think I enjoy it more than my own kids. LOL. To get to mine, we take a train down to Sydney, a ferry across the harbor, then once in the park the sky lift up the hill. The zoo animals have a fantastic view of Sydney Harbor and the Bridge. It's a fantastic way to spend the day. Happy Mother's Day!

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  7. What a nice post!

    My first Mother's Day was just a few days after my son was born, and I went in to his nursery in the wee hours of the morning to feed him and found a card from my husband.

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    1. Oh, that is so sweet! He's a keeper!! ;D

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    2. Wow. Melt my heart. What a lovely guy you have there. :)

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  8. Heather, I loved that rush of hormones after I had Bella! I would start crying and then immediately start laughing because I would be crying over the stupidest things. Such a cathartic time! LOL!

    I had high hopes for my first Mom's Day -- Bella was 5 months old, it was May, and I imagined this glorious, sunny day where we'd eat brunch al fresco, spend the afternoon at the park, maybe nap or just snuggle...

    Turned out to be the coldest, rainiest day in a long time! We ate brunch inside and then hung out in bed most of the day, which might sound nice, but not when you were hoping for a fun day in the sun. lol. I did get some nice gifts from the hubby, though :)

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    1. You did? LMAO I remember feeling very foolish. I wanted to be overjoyed but I couldn't seem to get there. For my second pregnancy I had no expectations I was in control. That worked out so much better. LOL

      Lazy days in bed are my treat of choice. I get to catch my breath with no guilt. Hope you have a wonderful Mother's Day this year.

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  9. My mom is getting her Mother's Day present early this year--we're taking a vacation in Chicago even as I type this. :)

    Since I don't have kids, I don't have any of my own Mother's Day stories to share...well, except for one that other crazy cat ladies might appreciate. LOL. When I had my very first kitten, my roommate at the time gave me a book all about raising a cat, for the new cat mom. I've still got it.

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    1. That's a great pressie for you mom. I've been reading your tweets and it sounds like you're having a great time.

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  10. Oh my, I'm sad to say I don't remember my first Mother's Day. I'm sitting here, trying to drum up the memory and...come up blank. Eep! I remember bringing my baby girl home on Valentine's Day, but nothing on Mother's day. That's really sad. :(

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    1. I have parties and even whole holidays that I can barely remember after I became a mom for the first time. LOL. Good to see my patchy memory has good company.

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  11. I guess a lot of us are in the same boat: we don't remember our first mother's day.:} My oldest was just over a month old, so that period of my life was one big sleep-deprived blur. LOL!

    Although I'm sure I got to do *something*.

    What a cute post, Heather!

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    1. Do you have plans for this year, Marquita?

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  12. Oh, my first mother's day was almost twenty years ago and I was seriously too young to really appreciate it like I do now so I don't remember much. As a teen mom it never occurred to me to capture these precious little moments because I don't think as a teen that things like that are important.

    Now however, I take my camera everywhere and I capture random pics to post to my family facebook page and well, I feel like if I don't remember everything that somehow I will forget it all. Time flies by and as my oldest has moved out this year, it makes me cuddle my youngest two more tightly to my chest. I wish I had taken more pictures, remembered every single second when my oldest boy was just a baby, because he's all grown now and I am an emotional wreck. Every time he visits and leaves again it takes me back to those first few years when I should have done this more or I should have done that more...but you can't change time. You can only appreciate what you have right now.

    So I've made very certain these last several years with my oldest son have been meaningful and full of love. He knows I adore him. So I'd like to think that this year's mother's day will be extra special for me. My first year without my oldest in the home...it'll be rough I think...but hopefully, it'll be precious as well. Uh, see I tear up every time I think about it.

    Here's to all the mother's out there...make every day count. I can't stress that enough. They grow up way too fast. I think I've had a heavy dose of the empty nest syndrome this year even though I still have two boys left to raise. Hopefully, this gets a little easier but I doubt it.

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  13. I get misty eyed when my eldest (almost 19) buys himself new clothes. LOL It is so hard to let go but I think I raised a good man. He still gives me a hug and occasionally tries to squash me. I'm sure your son is a man to be proud of.

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