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Thursday, May 10, 2012

What's in a kiss?

Hi.
Name's Andris.
I'm a Countess. Of Sass.
I've a confession. I'm what you call an information specialist. That's right, a specialist.
What's that mean? Well. Um. It's sort of a fancy way of saying I'm...what's that word?


Oh yeah. Nosy.

Not the sell-your-secrets-to-the-highest-bidder brand--please, keep all your skeletons and their fetishes in the closet. I'm more into off the beaten path sort of facts. You know, the universal knowledge that no one has every really heard. For example, did you know Americans didn't commonly use forks until after the civil war?
Or bananas aren't really a fruit, but a type of herb?


Shut the front door. And get off my lawn.

I like knowing frivolous tidbits of information.
When I came across some kissing facts, I puckered up, buttercup. I want to know all about Le Smooch.

Hey, I'm a romance writer. What do ya want from me?

Kisses have their own language, conveying over a dozen meanings without speaking a word.

Wanna know a little surprise? There is no more meaningful, affectionate gesture than a kiss to the forehead. I didn't see that one coming either. No matter age, gender or relationship, a peck at the temple means you truly love the person you're kissing.


  A pucker plant on the hand implies admiration, tenderness and trust on the part of the giver. 


A little kissy on the cheek transmits support and complicity, regardless of attraction.


*Wiggling eyebrows* On to the romancy kisses.
Want to know the most seductive kiss of all? The one which sends the clear message of intimacy and erotic intent?
 The collarbone.

Oops! Wrong picture. You weren't supposed to see that.

A nibble at the ear can charge a kiss with sexual tension, but also brings a playful mischievousness.

And finally, the most sought after kiss--a taste of the lips. From friendship to passion to love, none has more meaning than a kiss on the mouth. 

It's our job as romance writers to pull the reader into the emotion of the kiss. Do you have a favorite scene or author who writes a kiss so perfectly it makes your toes curl?

50 comments:

  1. Andris,

    Welcome to Lady Scribes. We are so glad to have you with us. I love this post. I never really thought about a kiss on the forehead, but I kiss my kids there all the time. And of course, my hero almost always kisses the heroine there at least once in my books.

    I think the authors with toe-curling ability for me are Sabrina Jeffries, Lisa Kleypas, & Kristin Callihan. They are all excellent at building sexual tension and I think that's what makes it so great when the kiss comes.

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    1. Thank you, Samantha!
      I was surprised to learn a kiss on the forehead is the defining kiss for love. But I like it! I told my husband and now, like two inbred idiots, we "blow" forehead kisses. I'd probably be mortified if I didn't absolutely love it. Lol.
      Great kissing picks too!

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    2. Blowing forehead kisses! I love it. :D

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    3. How do you blow forehead kisses? You'll have to show me when I see you next.

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    4. It's really stupid, actually. We tap our foreheads and then blow the kiss to the other. Ridiculous, isn't it? And we're breeders, so we're passing the intelligence on to another generation. ;}

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    5. LOL! I have to to see you do that. :)

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  2. Andris ~ OMG!

    *Note to self * Do not drink coffee while reading Lady Sass' blogs in the future. I almost drenched my laptop when I scrolled down to the kissing camel pic.

    Welcome to LadyScribes! And congrats on your first post! :)

    As for kissing authors...er...you know what I mean... I'll have to agree with Samantha on Sabrina Jeffries. But our own LadyScribe Deb Marlowe writes some amazing toe curling kissing scenes herself!

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    1. Ava,
      Teehee! I hate to think you almost ruined your laptop as I know how well you work that thing.
      I agree that Sabrina and Deb know how to write a sizzling kissing scene! They must get a lot of practice(wink, wink. Oh wait--did I type that out loud?) ;}

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  3. Yay! Lady Sass is in the house!

    Great post, Andris. I love that tidbit about the forehead kiss, too, like Samantha. So sweet. I like the idea of the collarbone kiss being so full of intent, too.

    The first scene that popped into my head at your question was the kissing in the rain, in the streets of Paris scene, in Loretta Chase's Lord of Scoundrels. Great scene. Great sexual tension throughout that book!

    But I'm blushing at Ava's compliment. Thank you, Ava! And yes, Sabrina Jeffries would be high up on my list, along with Liz Carlyle, who writes some of the hottest heroes out there, IMO.

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    1. The kissing in the rain! I could never forget that one.

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  4. Hi Deb!
    I love the forehead kiss too. My kids are probably getting tired of my lips on their forehead now. Lol.
    The compliment was well-earned you kissing master! ;}

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  5. Most excellent post, dearie!!
    Now I know why my collarbones long to be smooched!!!! Hehe.

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    1. Thanks, Gina! Glad you liked and thank you for stopping by! :}

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  6. Welcome to LS, Andris! So great to have you! That camel pic tells me you're a *hilarious* addition to the blog :) So funny!

    I love, love, love the forehead kiss. I don't get it too often, but only because I'm taller than my hubby, so it would take a lot of effort on his part to get up there. lol. Actually, when he was in Little Shop of Horrors years ago and had to kiss the leading lady, I didn't mind the lip kiss at all...it was watching him kiss her forehead that made jealousy run through my veins!!

    I hate to admit this, but it's been SO long since I've gotten to read a book start to finish that no kiss scenes are coming to mind. However, NO ONE has ever been kissed the way Clark Gable kissed Vivien Leigh in Gone with the Wind! :)

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    1. Thank you, Jerrica! Aww, well then you know he REALLY loves you when he gives you a forehead kiss--he has to work so hard to get there! Lol.

      That is a fabulous example! The way they lean into each other...swoon.

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  7. I have a question. What do y'all think makes for a great kiss in a book? The lead up counts for a lot, but are there other factors that make it toe-curling? I may have a kiss or two that needs to be written this week. LOL

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    1. For me, more than the details of the kiss, it is the emotion involved...most of which is tied up in the lead up to the kiss. I have to know, regardless of whose POV the kiss is written from, exactly what emotion this is causing in both characters.

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  8. Lady Sass is all about kissing, huh? Now I know who to go to when I need a little something something. LOL. Or not.

    My favorite kiss scenes tend to be those unexpected ones...the kisses to the forehead or the cheek or the hand. But the one kiss scene that is coming to mind at the moment is the one in Tessa Dare's Goddess of the Hunt, at the very beginning of the book. The very young heroine knocks on the door of the hero at night, and before he knows what is happening, she gives him a very awkward, inexperienced kiss on the lips...practicing to kiss another man. :) It was cute, memorable, and it has stuck with me from the moment I read it.

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    1. Catherine, Well, not ALL about kissing, but I sure wouldn't pass it up. Lol.
      I like the kisses that catch them off guard too--especially in the middle of a fight where emotions run wild. Whew! Burns up the pages! lol. Love that. :)

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  9. Wowza! Great blog. I had NO idea there were so many implications behind a KISS!! Now I'm going to be watching and analyzing... ;D Yep - best kiss ever - Gone With The Wind. Though I heard she hated every moment of it. Of course, that wild Buffy / Spike throw you up against the wall and kiss-you-senseless kiss was pretty good too!!! And I will admit Damon and Elena's recent kiss on Vampire Diaries was one of those rewind and replay moments!!

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    1. Thank you, Cynthia! I was fascinated when I found this little ditty of info. I've been analyzing every kiss too. lol. Can't help it!
      Vivian Leigh hated it?! What?! I'm crushed. Oh yeah, Buffy and Spike are hot potatoes. :) I cringe to say this because I know it'll land me in hot water, but I don't watch VD (EEK!). Although if their kiss was that hot, I may have to change that. :)

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    2. I heard that too about Vivien Leigh... She said he had rotten breath or something.

      But you can't see that on the screen, so I just pretend I never heard that bit of info. ;)

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    3. No way! She HATED it?!?!? That's kind of hilarious.

      And I have to agree on the recent Damon/Elena (Delana) kiss. We've been waiting SO long for that to happen. Longest foreplay EVER! But so rewarding! LOL!

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  10. Welcome to LS, Andris! Love this blog post. I am with Jerrica and Cynthia on the Gone with the Wind kiss. That was the first one that popped into my mind. But how could I have forgotten Buffy and Spike until Cynthia mentioned it? As for authors, I completely agree that Sabrina Jeffries writes a great kissing scene. For me, as long as the kiss is coupled with an emotionally charged scene for whatever reason, it will usually be a great kiss.

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  11. Thank you, Jane! Yes, the Gone with the Wind kiss is memorable--I'm so bummed to hear that she hated it. :(
    I agree that an emotionally charge kiss is the BEST! I don't even care what emotion it is as long as it's potent! Lol.

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  12. My Lady: Are you kidding?, Bananas aren't fruits?
    Well, you're the infomation specialist! Thanks for sharing!
    I like kissing my husband and children on their foreheads, now I know why. Soon they, not only my husband but all of them, will be taller than I am, so I will need a ladder.
    I always hear the thunder in my head when I read the Lord of Scoundrels, because I'm always expecting that bolt, it's such a powerful kiss! And I love the kiss in Goddess of the Hunt... but not the first one, the third one.
    No wonder why some vampires are great seducers, they put their mouths and their fangs so near the collarbone!!
    Great blog. I really enjoyed, but have to go searching for Lady Intrigue's books.

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    1. I have *got* to read Lord of Scoundrels one of these days - it's practically legendary! Putting at top of TBR pile now...

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    2. Grettel, The banana thing blows the mind, doesn't it? I don't like my food jumping fences into another category. Lol. I have to confess, like Erin, I've yet to read Lord of Scoundrels. Eek! Sounds like I better get on that. ;}

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  13. What, no Eskimo or Butterfly kiss tidbits? :) I shared both of those with my parents, and I just loved them as a kid.

    As for my favorite kiss, believe it or not (and don't tell anyone I said this), I loved Edward and Bella's first kiss in Twilight (the book - NOT the movie). She had built it up so well, by the time it finally happened I thought it was brilliant :)

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    1. Personally, I loved the Twilight books, and still do. I know a lot of people trash them, but I think she did a great job! And I agree about the kiss- you were practically holding your breath there with Bella. :D

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    2. Erin, I don't recall anything on Butterfly or Eskimo kisses. Kind of a bummer, now that I think about it. :(
      I haven't read the Twilight books--possibly the only person on the planet who hasn't? Lol.

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  14. Forehead kisses are very sweet and caring. I don't know if it was the most romantic but it broke my heart: Buffy Kissing Angel before she sent him to Hell. *sob*

    What a great debut blog post, Andris!!!

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    1. Thank you, Marquita! Oh, I totally forgot about that kiss! Now I want to curl into a ball and cry. Heart break!

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  15. Andris. great blog today. I have been trying to think of kissing scene in a book. None of them are popping in my head. However, my friend swears that Nicolas Sparks can write a good kissing scene. However, I haven't picked up one of his books in like 10 years, so I wouldn't even know. Now I'm going to look at these novels and go is that a good kissing scene?

    Thanks for the food for thought.

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    1. Hi Melody! I can't read Nicholas Sparks--he is too good at making people cry, so I stay as far away as possible. If I want to cry, I'll step on the scale. ;} Glad it got you thinking!

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    2. Lol. I feel the same way. Plus, after reading the notebook I was done. No more I can't handle that. I also have a hard time reading Brenda Joyce for that reason. Love her work, but I need to be in the mood for crying.

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    3. I am NEVER in the mood to read something to make me cry. I much prefer to stick with surface emotions--I'm good and shallow like that. Lol.

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    4. You said it, Sister Andris! I am never in the mood to read something that will make me cry. EVER. If I'm reading, I want to be happy or go on an adventure.

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    5. That's why I prefer certain writers over others.

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  16. I love this blog! Being a romance reader and writer, the kiss is SO important. And if it's done right, it can make the whole book, lol!
    The scene in the library with Matthew and Daisy, in Lisa Kleypas's Scandal in Spring, was HOT, and also moving. And I think Claudia Dain does great kissing scenes! I just reread a few of the Courtesan series novels and they are positively inspirational...

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    1. Olivia, I agree! If you can pull me into the kiss, the rest of the pages fade away. Dreamy sigh.

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  17. It's great that in romances no one mentions bad breathe or morning breath. i can't think of any specific kissing scenes right now, but I do like it when there's a little nibbling of the lips before they really go for it.

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    1. Jane,
      Yeah, I like my fiction to keep reality away. I can find morning breath in my own bed, thanks, no need to ruin my romance with it! Lol. Thank you for stopping by! :)

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  18. Enjoyed the blog! I like trivia, too. I really enjoyed learning about what the different kisses mean. I just like really passionate kisses between two people who love each other so any author that can portray that has my vote.

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    1. MK, Yay! Glad you enjoyed it. :) And yes, some authors can convey so much passion with a single kiss, making the reader swoon as much as the characters. Sigh.

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  19. Great blog and snarky as ever. lol! I too love useless information. And my favorite out of the bedroom kiss from my husband is the one on the forehead. Melts my heart every time!

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    1. Lilly, Snarky? *batting lashes innocently* Why, whatever do you mean?
      I love that you stipulate OUT of the bedroom kiss! Bahahaha!

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  20. The Countess of Sass indeed! Congratulations on your Lady Scribes debut. Your post is fabulous. Loved it! :)

    As to a favorite kiss... there are too many!

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