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Friday, August 10, 2012

Wish me luck. I'm gonna need it!


Ok. It looks like it's headed east... Use your imagination.
In a few hours, I will board a plane headed for the Rocky Mountains for a 9 day visit with my family. But I’m not going alone. Oh, no. I’m taking my teenage son and my wonderful boyfriend (better known to my Twitter followers as “the scientist”), who is either insane or the bravest man I know for agreeing to go on this sojourn out west.  Other than my son, he has never met any of my family until now.

I mean, my whole family will be there: my mother, grandmother, brothers, sister, nephews, etc. (The etc. would be my brother-in-law and my soon to be sister-in-law, my long-time BFF and her family, not that I was trying to be dismissive. And now the etc. doesn’t matter as I’ve spelled it all out.)

But in short – YES – everyone.  Warts and all. (I don’t think anyone actually has any warts, but you know what I mean.)

Of course, my hair is longer and redder.
AND I'm a girl, but you get the idea.
Not attractive. Not at all. 
Now that it’s time to leave, I’m not sure if I’m quite ready for this trip. I mean, I’m all packed. I’ve got our boarding passes, my car reservation, our hotel reservation. Technically, I’m ready. But it’s a little nerve wracking to think about the sheer number of people who will suddenly be thrust in front of the scientist in just a few hours.  I am terrified someone will do something to scare him off.  And then I’ll have to kill that particular family member.  And I’ll end up in jail. And as Andris Bear is fond of saying, “Prison orange is not my color.”

So in preparation, and to head off any stints in the joint, I have threatened both of my brothers with slow, torturous murder should they misbehave in front of the scientist. Yes, they’re both grown men, but the threats are necessary, let me just assure you. (Even if the threat *is* empty.)

There’s not much I can do with my grandmother. I don’t think threats would work with her. And though she loves me, she’s a bit of a wildcard with virtually no filter as she approaches her 90th birthday, and I’m never quite sure what will come out of her mouth. Note to self: KEEP A CLOSE EYE ON GRANDMA.

I’m fairly confident I can trust my mother, sister, and brother-in-law to all seem like reasonable people. Thank God for them. My nephews are as precocious and precious as they can be and I’m not worried about them at all, except for maybe upstaging me with their cuteness. I mean I am visiting… I should get all the attention, right? Well, my teenager, my scientist, and me.

Anyway, I have a visit scheduled to see my BFF, her husband and daughter one of the days we’re there. And I can hardly wait to see them. It feels like a lifetime since I’ve laid eyes on them, and I’m fairly certain the scientist will fit right in with this particular group.

It’s the group I’m related to that has my stomach all tied in knots. Don’t get me wrong. I adore my family. I love each and every one of them, despite their quirks or blaring flaws (they know the flaws of which I speak). But maybe I have nothing to worry about. He’s met my son after all. My teenage son. Can anyone be scarier than teenage boys?  Yeah, I’m not sure either…

So, I’ve got a rental car scheduled. (Usually I make my family chauffer me around town to wherever I want to go.) And I’ve got a hotel room reserved for just the scientist and me as my son is looking forward to staying with his cousins during this trip. So, I feel like if we need to escape the group I’m related to, we can do so with relative ease. Hopefully if we do need to make an escape, my family will be understanding. Crossing my fingers on that one.

So tell me, how did you introduce your significant other to your family? Did it go well? Or not so well?  I’m very willing to learn from others’ experiences. Any and all tips, helpful hints, or even well-wishes will be appreciated. Seriously… Wish me luck. I think I’m going to need it.

As a side note... I've had some friends who would like instant play-by-play of any and all newsworthy activities during this trip. So for them - and anyone else who is interested - I'll be live tweeting under #AvaVaca for your enjoyment over the next 9 days.

29 comments:

  1. LOL, Ava. Nothing will ever prepare them to meet the family. When my family met hubs, they met him the next day. I'm surprise he stuck with me after meeting my family. I mean my family is crazy. Seriously, I wonder how I came out of that bunch.

    When I met his family, one of his sister was determine not to like me before she actually met me. I was forwarned by one of his other sister who came out to meet me. Family stuff can be crazy. I wish you luck with the family.

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    1. Good heavens, Melody! He met them the next day?!?! I guess he knew early on what he was getting into, right?

      And how awful about his one sister. Has she ever come around and decided she likes you?

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    2. After she met, she decided to like me. She was just upset, because I didn't meet his family before we got engage. She was just upset she didn't get a say.

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    3. LOL. Did she think her say would sway him one way or the other?

      Glad she's come around. ;)

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  2. Ava, I am sure it will go better than you think. You have a teenage son, and as you said, nothing is scarier than that. I should know, I have one too. I thought he would be the easy one after the two girls. I was so wrong. So, this should be a piece of cake. But, I will wish you luck anyway.

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    1. Amy ~ Your daughters were easier than your son?!? I've always heard it was the other way around. Now I'm panicking for a completely different reason. :)

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    2. Actually, ALL teenagers are difficult, unlike myself at that age, I am sure. But hey, your mind is off the Scientist meeting the family now, right - LOL.

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  3. A Certain Scientist is a brave and lovely man! I hope you have a wonderful time! And so smart you are, planning for an escape, um, I mean some down time!

    Can't wait to hear all the deets!

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    1. Deb ~ Thanks! He is both brave and lovely. And I love your euphemism of "down time" vs. "escape". You're always so much nicer than me. ;)

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  4. Ava,
    Staying at a hotel and having your own transportation is a great idea. I can't even remember how my family met my husband. It was so long ago, but I remember meeting his. They all lived out of state at that time, so I didn't meet them until two days before our wedding. My husband's mom, however, called me when we became engaged to welcome me to the family. Now she is one of my best friends. I think I lucked out, but even if his family would have been awful, I loved (love) him and he's the only one that matters.

    I hope you have a great trip and lots of fun stories to tell. :)

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    1. Samantha ~ That is such a sweet story. :) So glad you have such a great relationship with your MIL. My ex-MIL is watching my dog for me. So I'm glad we still get along well enough. :)

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  5. So, he's willingly meeting your family? Tsk. And he is so cute too. Such a shame to learn he's nuts. ;} Although, in his defense, he DID make it through Catherine's welcome to NC party, so if he can handle that...you shouldn't end up in prison orange. Or cuffs which are a much better accessory than that ugly jumpsuit. Teehee!
    As most people know, I'm a talker. Duh. So naturally, my husband is not. The first time he met my mother he was his usual reserved self--of which I warned her before the get together! Anyway, after little speaking on my hubs part, my mother grabbed his face, kissed him and said, "Are you mute, honey?" I'm pretty sure the noise that came out of my mouth resembled that of a deflating whoopee cushion. Ack!

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    1. OMG! Andris!! That is hilarious! What was your hubby's reaction to your mother? (And I'm guessing you take after her and not your father, right...?)

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    2. He didn't reply!!! He just gave her a crooked grin and said nothing! Baha! Actually both of my parents are free with their mouth. I didn't stand a chance. Teehee!

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    3. LOL! He didn't reply? How could he *not* reply to that? Did he want her to think he really was mute? I swear this could be a scene out of a movie. ;)

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    4. He is sooo easy-going. It didn't faze him a bit. Knowing my darling hubs, he did it just to mess with her. He's rotten. I like him lots. ;}

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  6. Ava, I love that The Scientist is brave (crazy?) enough to go on this journey with you at this point in your relationship. It'll all work out. Even if (heaven help us) he and your family do not get along AT ALL, at least you'll know it early on in your relationship and be able to plan future family time accordingly. (That's what I worry about if/when I ever meet The One...introducing him to the CRAZINESS that is my family...)

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    1. Catherine ~ It does seem to be up for debate, doesn't it? Brave vs. Crazy. LOL I think your family is similar to mine in a lot of ways, so I can relate to your craziness and know you can relate to mine.

      It's terrifying. :)

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    2. So scary it makes me shudder, thinking of what you'll be going through. LOL.

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  7. Good luck! They'll love him. So as long as HE can hang on, it'll be fine!

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    1. Thanks, Sabrina. I'm hoping HE can hang on. Thank heavens for hotels. :)

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  8. The fact that he's willing to meet "The Masses" is a good sign! And I bet your family is ready to meet him. Now, is he ready for the 3rd degree? You know it's coming. lol!

    Good luck and enjoy the trip!

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    1. LOL, Lillly... I'm usually the one giving *them* the 3rd degree. But turn about is *not* fair play. :)

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  9. I'm so excited for you!!! Taking him home to Mama! That's a HUGE step!! And from what I know of The Scientist, he's pretty adaptable. I'm sure he'll get along fine with your family members, so don't be nervous :)

    Eric is pretty easy going, so the first time he met my family it was kind of...just...normal. lol. HIS parents, however...well, I don't want to get in trouble, so remind me to tell you about it in person some day. Let's just say Eric has never worn a turtle neck again.

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    1. Jerrica ~ You are going to HAVE to tell me. (1) I can't imagine Eric *in* a turtle neck to begin with. (2) I'm dying to know why he'll never wear one though. That has to be a great story!! And you're so chicken not to tell everyone. What are the odds your in-laws look at *my* blog? ;) YES - I'm a bad influence. Tell us, tell us, tell us!

      The Scientist is pretty easy going, but he's very smart and his mind is always working. So even if he isn't saying something, he might be thinking it.

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  10. You'll be fine. The Scientist seems to be really easy going and put up with all of us without incident. ;)

    The first time my parents my husband, my dad said give Hot Builder another earring and longer hair, then he'd make a pretty girl.

    Uh, thanks Dad. (former Marine. Guess he couldn't help it.)

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    1. Marquita ~ LOL! I can't imagine Hot Builder with an earring and long hair. Too funny.

      And - yes - the scientist is really easy going. So far everything has gone well and everyone loves him. :)

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  11. Sweetheart, at least yours is planned. Unfortunately, my parents made a surprise visit so they were introduced to my significant other after he'd just gotten out of the shower, wet hair, no shirt, shorts, and he hadn't shaved in days. Plus, on top of that (it's a running joke in my family now) He was eating cereal out of a giant and I do mean giant mixing bowl. *Sigh* He loves to make a first impression. Needless to say they didn't quite like him at first but he does tend to grow on you. LOL.

    So you're lucky to have some kind of control over this. You'll be fine and I daresay the Scientist will love your family and vice/versa. Good luck!!

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    1. Suzie ~ I can't even picture that scene. OMG. Too funny. :)

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