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Thursday, September 13, 2012

Just Breathe

Y'all remember how I was so crazy stressed not so long ago, because I was getting ready to pack up a U-Haul with everything I owned, haul my car behind me, listen to my two cats cry the whole way, and move from Texas to North Carolina?

Yeah?

Well, it's done. Finished. Put it in the books.

I've been in North Carolina now for almost a month. I'm all settled in (there are only three unpacked boxes left to go!), I have furniture set up and things on the walls, I've passed the test and got my North Carolina drivers license, and I even have a NC plate on my car. Yep, it's official. I live here now.

And suddenly, that stress is all gone. It feels amazing.

What feels even more amazing is that, about a week or so after I got here, I realized my chest wasn't all tight, and I didn't have a constant headache, and air could move through my lungs. Yeah, that was the stress doing all of that...stress from the move, on top of major stress going on within my family in Texas. And now? It's all still in Texas. It isn't sitting on top of me, weighing me down.

Now, I can breathe again.

I guess the only thing left to do is get back into my writing routine. Or set up a writing routine. Something like that. LOL. That, and make sure I'm taking time to relax--whether it is through getting a massage, or going out with some friends, reading a good book, or even having someone do my nails.

Time to move on to the next thing that will add stress to my life. :)

What do you do when a heavy weight has been lifted out of your life? How do you celebrate? Do you have any advice for the next time I'm feeling like the world is going to crush me?

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  1. I'm just so glad you feel better! And I'm glad you are here!

    I try to celebrate by doing something I wouldn't normally do just for myself, as you said. I hope you enjoy the pampering!

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    1. Thanks, Deb! Sometimes, when life is so crazy, it is difficult to remember to take care of yourself. I'm trying really hard to do it. It feels great to be here and be settled, though!

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  2. It usually takes me a little bit to relax after a stressful time, which kind of stinks. But if I act like I'm on vacation, that helps. I'll pick out books to read and do some things I don't normally have time to do, like browse in a store, rent a few movies, have lunch with a friend... Pampering yourself is a great idea, too. Then when I get back to my everyday life, I have that relaxed vacation glow for a while.

    I'm glad you made the move and things are better for you. I think everyone dreams of a fresh start at one time or another. I admire you so much for doing it. :)

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    1. You know what I've started doing, Samantha? Crafts. I'm trying to decorate my new apartment, and make it look nice but be functional. So I've bought a few crafty storage items and I'm working on painting them to match my color scheme. I can't tell you how long it's been since I've done anything like this--maybe a decade or more--and it feels really good. :)

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    2. I've really been into organizing and decorating my house lately, too. It feels so good to have my environment orderly, for the most part. I haven't gotten to some of the other parts of the house yet. :)

      Where do you get your craft stuff? Do you have a Michael's or Hobby Lobby near you? Ooh! I'm going to Hobby Lobby right now! I've been looking for the perfect candlestick, but I haven't been able to find it yet. I bet they'll have one I like.

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    3. I've been to both Michael's and a store I'd never heard of called AC Moore. The AC Moore store actually had even more options and ideas than Michael's. It was wonderful.

      And I just stopped at Michael's again on my way home from lunch with a friend. They were *rightthere*, so I kind of felt like I had to. You know, because I needed more supplies. LOL.

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  3. Catherine ~ It's so funny you'd mention breathing. Years ago when my dominating ex-husband up and left, my life was turned upside down. I didn't know what was going to happen to me or my son. I was completely stressed out... BUT for the first time in over a decade, I took a breath. I hadn't realized that I hadn't been breathing in that relationship. So even though my life was in complete disarray, breathing felt nice. I highly recommend it. And when the divorce papers were finally signed a year later (because some idiot elected men in NC felt a year waiting period after separation was a good idea... boy do I have a piece of my mind to give *those*... ahem... let's call them gentlemen) I took another deep breath. Even though I'd started breathing again after he left, I didn't realize I was still weighted down by being legally connected to him. Once that last legal tie was severed, I felt like a million bucks.

    I like to celebrate by surrounding myself with people I love and care about. I, truly, do have the best friends in the world. I like to go to a fancy restaurant with my son (because we're both a little spoiled.. or a lot, but who's keeping track?) I like to buy something nice for myself.

    As for how to deal with future stress... I wish I had the answer for that. Take each day at a time, is my best suggestion.

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    1. Isn't it insane how great it feels to breathe...and how scary it feels to realize you haven't been? Buying something nice for yourself is a great idea. :) My only problem is, which something nice should I buy? LOL. I don't want to go overboard and then end up with a whole new set of stressors in my life.

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  4. When I feel like the world is crashing in on me I run. Really hard and really fast. Oh, and I blare the Foo Fighters as I'm running. NOTHING can make you feel like you can sustian like the Foo!

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    1. LOL, Julie. I've been blaring both Foo Fighters and Linkin Park in the car lately. But I don't run. I have been making a point of going to the local indoor pool lately, to see if I can get some exercise in and start to use my shoulder again. It's been good. :)

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  5. Catharine, Well, I'm still waiting for my unwanted burden to pass into the Underworld to overthrow Satan and rule his kingdom (trust me, she will). Until that blessed departing, I cope by ignoring all her drama. Luckily, the distance between us allows me to do so or I'd be sporting that infamous prison orange we dread so much. :)
    I have to keep myself busy (whether that be scrubbing the house like I'm hoping to find gold in the supports, writing, exercising)because I'm an extremist (I mean that in a non-terrorist definition) and will either explode or withdrawal if I don't find something to take my mind off my worries. So keep busy is my best advice for future stress. Because really, don't I strike as zen? ;}

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    1. Staying busy definitely helps keep the mind off the stress, that's for sure. Except then, sometimes I create new stress--trying to sort out all the different things keeping me busy. LOL. Let us know when your unwanted burden passes on. :) But stay away from the prison orange. Not. Our. Color.

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  6. Ugh! I'll let you know when I'm over this stressful part of my life. Somehow, in my head, I thought all the stress would go away as soon as we got to FL. And granted, I'm much more relaxed than I was in NJ, but...we had 10 days of constant toddler duty, with no furniture, no toys, no belongings...it was kind of fun, but definitely more stressful than I'd hoped...and now...

    Well, now, there are piles and piles of boxes that need unpacking and I SO don't feel like doing it. LOL! But alas, they won't unpack themselves, so here I go.

    So glad you're settled and moving on with life as usual again. And I'm SO happy that you've been able to separate yourself from the drama! Yay!

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    1. Jerrica, I promise that once you've made a pretty good dent in the boxes, the stress will lighten considerably. It is very daunting, though, especially when you've got a little one around. Once you've gotten all of the essentials in each room unpacked, then work your way methodically, room by room, working until everything in that room is unpacked and has a home. I hope you start feeling more settled soon!

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  7. Three cheers for you being in NC, Catherine!! And yay for for being able to breathe again. :)

    Honestly, I have no set routine or plan of action when I'm stressed. That might be a bad thing. ;p

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    1. I never used to either, Marquita, and I came very close to having a nervous breakdown. That was when I decided that something had to change...whether it was me doing something good for myself, or taking myself out of the stressful environment, it didn't matter. But something had to change. These days, I'm much more aware of my stress, and actively try to find ways to handle it. And I think I'm a lot healthier overall because of it.

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  8. Yay!!! So glad you're so much better now :) and you know what? So am I, now that we can hang out :)

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  9. I don't have any advice right now. I'm currently trapped under the editing red pen, gasping for air, and unsure of even what day of the week it is. Ask me again at the end of next week when my next release is live. :o)

    Congrats on the move. I'm glad you're feeling better.

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  10. Grats on the move, Catherine! And grats on the release of stress! You deserve it. I wish I knew the answer the answer it would certainly make life a little easier. So glad you're all moved in and happy! It's great to just start over sometimes.

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