This year marked a milestone in my life. Both of my children are now at the same school! I still have to get up at 6:00 a.m. every morning, but I don’t have to spend two hours on carpool duty. I have had several friends ask me why I don’t take it a step further and carpool with people in my neighborhood. You know the routine, I bet. I would take my kids and somebody else’s kids a few days a week, and then another mother would take my kids with hers on the other days.I could do this, but I won’t. I have come to value my precious carpool time. Yes, my kids fight, and some days are less fun than others, but most days I learn something new or amazing about my children while the three of us are in the car together.
We have a habit of listening to National Public Radio (NPR) in the car, and this program is fodder for interesting conversation, tears, laughter and all sorts of unexpected questions that I end up having to Google the answer to.When Phyllis Diller recently passed away, I was amazed that my kids actually laughed at her jokes that NPR played. Who knew two young boys could have such great senses of humor. They have both asked me repeatedly to retell some of her jokes, and I have actually heard them telling her jokes to friends.
Our time in the car always give me the perfect opportunity to trap them and get each of them to tell me something special about their day at school or something that is bothering them. I learned my older son was having a small bullying problem this way, and I learned my youngest son will always tell me something special he has learned that amazes me that he remembers it!I also get the warmest feeling inside when I let my children out of the car to go into school and see them walking side by side, big brother watching out for little brother. The youngest will meander so he can constantly turn around and blow me kisses, and sometimes he even runs back up to my car window after he is almost in school to tell me just how much he loves me. If someone else was taking them, I wouldn’t have these special memories that touch my soul and make everything else in life worth it.
I realize more than ever that it is up to me to make every moment count with my children. I have seen people I know lose a child to sickness, accidents, or simply lose the bond with their children because the parent becomes too busy. Driving my own kids to school is one way I try to keep our bond strong and make the most of our time together. I am very thankful I have the luxury to be able to do this.
How do you try and make the most of your time with your kids and make every moment count?Have a great day,
Julie Johnstone, The Marchioness of Mayhem