Pretty sure that everyone in my generation can name a line from a John Hughes movie that defines them as a person. Mine is from Some Kind of Wonderful.
Amanda: "Remember how I said I’d rather be with someone for the wrong reasons… than alone for the right ones? I’d rather be right."
Amanda was (mostly) talking about relationships and being with a guy, but this line actually struck a loud, resonant chord with me at a fairly young age. I realized that if I waited around for other people to do things with me, I'd never get to do what I wanted and I would miss out on some pretty amazing experiences.
Over the years, I have grown incredibly comfortable with going places and doing things entirely on my own. I acknowledge that several might have been more fun if I'd have had company, but I'm so glad I did not sit at home and miss out. Here are the most notable:
My best friend and I went every year together, until a few years back she couldn't attend the final day. I had paid for all three days, and both The National and Arcade Fire were playing, so I sure as heck wasn't going to miss them. After I jostled for position in the massive crowd, I claimed my spot by pulling out my iPhone and reading a book on it. It was "Never Love a Lawman" by Jo Goodman, which I adored.
Siouxsie and the Banshees reunited about a decade back and I saw them at the Vic Theatre in Chicago. A super tiny venue, I stood so close to the stage I could count the rhinestones on Siouxsie Sioux's bra after she stripped down. This was less fun than I thought it was going to be.
After my daughter was born, I got a solo subscription to the Goodman Theatre in Chicago, just so I could have a night out to myself and expose myself to culture and feed the creative well. While some plays blew my mind, others did not. Still, I loved doing this.
Countless. I probably go to more movies alone than with other people.
Had to get used to this when I used to travel a lot for work. Probably my least favorite out of all of them, but if I need food I will do this without complaint. Sushi bars are probably the best for this. Also, a book is a necessity.
Maybe the best thing to do by yourself because you can go at your own pace, see what you want to see, skip over things you don't like, sit in front of an exhibit for an hour, or chat up a docent without feeling like someone else is pulling you away. Museums are made for solo wanderers.
Gambling in Vegas:
This one was against my will. I'd spent a weekend with my sister there, and all flights home were canceled on the day I was supposed to fly out because of some horrible plane emergency. I was forced to stay over another night. Gambling without company isn't really fun. But! I won back all the money I'd lost over the last two days!
What about you? Are you comfortable doing things on your time, at your own pace, all by yourself? Or do you need a companion to break out of your shell or to enhance the experience?