I never thought I would blog about Kim Kardashian. EVER. Truthfully, she just isn’t on my radar most of the time, although it’s hard to miss all the tabloid headlines. But this blog isn’t about Kim, her fiancé, her family, or her show. It’s about exploring attitudes about childrearing and how a romantic relationship is supposed to fit in with raising a baby, or even older kids.
If you missed the twitter storm a few weeks ago, people were criticizing Kim Kardashian for posting selfies at her fiancé’s concerts. Tweeters were calling her a bad mom for going out now that she has a baby. When she tweeted the following in her defense, she sure poked the skunk.
When the baby goes down 4 bed or a nap, parents are allowed 2 work & support each other, maybe even have fun too.
I was flabbergasted by the animosity that rained down on her like hellfire. The comments ranged from blatant hatred to mother-shaming, but the ones that really caught me by surprise were similar to this one:
Parenting is about unconditional giving, 24/7/365 for the duration…
|Age 4: Score!|
|Age 34: Not so cute now, is he?|
Another comment said something along the lines of there being plenty of time to have fun with your partner when your children are grown.
Does anyone else see potential problems with this thinking?
(1) No one knows what the future holds. Maybe there won’t be plenty of time.
(2) Relationships require nurturing, so maybe there won’t even be a partnership if you wait until the kids are grown to nurture it.
I think it’s tough being a parent. We have this huge and wonderful responsibility to raise these beautiful gifts without screwing them up, but does that mean we have to give up our identities? Does it mean all our other relationships have to go on hold until our kids turn 18? Does it mean no more fun? Does it mean we all have to drive Minivans and wear mom jeans?!?