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Monday, December 23, 2013

Parting is Such Sweet Sorrow... BUT a HUGE Giveaway!!


The Scientist and me on our cruise last week.
Isn't he adorable?
As many of you know, I spent the last week on my #AvaVaca (my own vacation hashtag, if you don’t have one – you should totally get one.) When I wasn’t swimming with dolphins in the Caymans, being pushed around by Jamaicans or having the skin on my pinkie and “ring” toes scraped off by coral at Royal Caribbean’s private Haitian beach, I was finishing up an anthology novella that is due out next year.

The Scientist and I spent many an hour in the private Diamond member lounge aboard the Independence of the Seas (you *knew* I was going to have to mention my status at least once, right?). We enjoyed our balcony stateroom and the many people we met along our vacation. And we particularly enjoyed the 2 days before our trip when we got to hang out with Jerrica Knight-Catania and “That Guy” Eric.

But in the back of my head the entire time, I knew I had to write this blog. My last blog as a LadyScribe. I’ve been with the blog since its inception and even lobbied for the title. Love ‘em or hate ‘em those “Lady” titles were my idea. Except for early on, I designed all of the graphics and handled a lot of the technical issues for the blog. For a very long time, LadyScribes has been part of my life and part of my daily routine.

But the time has come for me to now say goodbye. Oscar Wilde once said, "Some cause happiness wherever they go; others whenever they go." I hope the former is true for me, but either way it is time for me to leave.

I find I’m Facebooking and Tweeting more than blogging these days and my life as a fulltime meeting planner, single mother, author, girlfriend, wearer of many other hats, etc – that I am stretched thinner and thinner each passing week. And something has to give.

I have loved my time as a LadyScribe. I have loved mingling with the other authors and chatting numerous readers here. I am certain I will be by from time to time to check up on the other Ladies… but you can always find me at:

With the holidays just around the corner, I’m in a gift-giving mood. So as a parting gift, I’ll giveaway an ebook copy of my first book A SCANDALOUS WIFE to any and all LadyScribes readers who comment here and who are also following me either on Twitter or on Facebook. Just email me at ava@avastoneauthor.com after you answer my final LadyScribes question...

What is the hardest (or alternatively easiest) goodbye you’ve ever said? 

38 comments:

  1. The hardest good bye was to my mother when she departed this world.

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    1. Debby that would be amazingly hard. Luckily, I haven't had to say that goodbye yet. I am still sad that I never got to say goodbye to my grandfather. It's been nearly 17 years, and I still miss him.

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  2. My hardest goodbye is coming up Jan. 30th --my last day apt work. Retirement begins Feb. 1st.
    I'll be following you on Facebook and Twitter.

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    1. Thanks Knye! I'll look forward to Facebooking and Tweeting you! Have a great holiday!!

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  3. One of the hardest good-byes I ever said was to my sister and my best friend as I left Iowa to move east for grad school. I knew it meant permanent changes. The second hardest good-bye was saying good-bye to finishing grad school; I'd done everything but the dissertation, but it was clear my heart wasn't in it. My heart was with my new husband and the life we wanted to build. So alternatively it was also one of the easiest good-byes!

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    1. Anna, isn't it nice when hard goodbyes are ALSO easy goodbyes? :)

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  4. Ava,
    We hate to see you leave. Much love and best wishes to you always. :)

    I've had some difficult goodbyes with some of my hospice patients, but probably one of the hardest goodbyes for me was when we moved to Wisconsin. I had to say goodbye to all my family and friends and start a new life when our son was just a baby. That was really hard, because I lost the support system I needed as a new mom.

    I think you both look adorable in the photo. So glad you had a great vacation.

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    1. I'll miss you too, Sam. But I know where to find you. :)

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  5. The hardest good-bye was to my husband of 30 years when he lost his final battle in a Florida hospice.

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    1. I am so sorry. That had to be incredibly hard. :(

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  6. My hardest good-bye was to my father 8 years ago.

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    1. I am sorry, Debbie. I am so fortunate I haven't had to say those goodbyes yet. :(

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  7. The hardest good bye I had was when my grandma died 18 years ago this month. Another that was hard to say goodbye to was my innocents, learning that all people aren't nice.

    Wow everyone is leaving it seems like. Well, good thing I stalk, I mean follow you on twitter and friends on Facebook. You know that I love your books and one of your biggest fan. I guess I will be stalking, I mean talking to you later. ;)

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    1. I would be so sad, Melody, if you weren't stalk...I mean talking to me on Facebook and Twitter. :)

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    2. Does this mean y'all are done with romance Ramblings too?

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    3. Heavens no! We were doing Romance Ramblings before we integrated it here at LadyScribes. We'll still "ramble" if for no other reason - I love talking to Jerr and Eric each week. :)

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    4. Oh good. I was a bit worry. BTW when I was on RR and I mention the friend, he actually watched that episode and knew I was talking about him.

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  8. It's always to my loved ones who have left... my mother, my furbabies... so sad... I'm so sorry to see you go but wish you the best in your future endeavors!

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  9. Ava, I will miss your posts here with Jerrica and all the other Ladies who left before you these past weeks. But yes, I will see you at other avenues online.

    I haven't had a goodbye that was my hardest yet but I know it would be my family and very close friends.

    Happy Holidays Ava.

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    1. Happy holidays to you, Ki Pha! :) See you on Facebook!

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  10. Thankfully I am blessed to say that my hardest goodbye, so far, was when I had to say goodbye when I got dropped off at college. I wasn't prepared to be left all by myself for months. I adjusted but it was still difficult.

    On another note, Ava I will miss reading your blog posts! However, I will keep in touch with you on facebook and twitter! Hopefully I can come up to Raleigh next month! Merry Christmas!

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    1. Oh, I hope you'll be able to make Lady Janes next month!!

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  11. Good luck with all your future writing! Aren't cruises wonderful?!

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    1. They're amazing! My most favorite way to travel! :)

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  12. I've just found this blog and really like it. Its so funny and love your books. It seems everyone is leaving this blog. But I will keep reading always. Will miss your charm on this site but will bother you on fb. Good luck

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    1. Rhonda, you can always find me on Facebook! :) I'll look forward to chatting with you there. :)

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  13. Well, I don't use FB or Twitter so I won't stalk you, lol, but I wish you success in your new endeavors. It would be too depressing to talk about my hardest goodbye but I think the easiest was leaving a job that I was very tired of! Happy Holidays to all of you!

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    1. Happy holidays to you too! And you can always find me on my website. ;)

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  14. When our family was living in Paris, I got a call that my mother was very ill and not expected to live long. It was Thanksgiving and I flew home to the U.S. My mother lingered for more weeks. I stayed with her at the hospital and grabbed some sleep here and there at a hotel room. Christmas came and went and my little children did not understand why I wasn’t with them. Then, my husband’s father passed away suddenly and he had to leave the children with friends in Paris and fly back to the U.S. By then, I had been in the U.S. for over six weeks and needed to be with my children. The doctors did not know how long Mom would linger. I decided that I would return to Paris with my husband and had to tell my Mom goodbye. My sister and brother were there with her. She did pass away a month later. That goodbye was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. I was devastated to leave her but my children needed me so much. My little one was shy around me and my older child was getting into trouble in school because he didn’t understand what was happening. When Mom did die, I flew back to the U.S. again for her funeral. This was by far the hardest thing I’ve ever had to face in my life.

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    1. Oh, Connie! That is so sad! That had to have been so horribly difficult. I am sorry.

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    2. Oh thank you, Ava. I didn’t mean to sound so maudlin, but I guess life throws us some ugly curveballs sometimes and we just have to learn to deal with it! Bless you, Dear Lady.

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  15. I'm lucky in that my family is healthy is still with me (or vice versa); I'm not sure I could handle losing any of them!
    Having said that the easiest goodbye & one of relief was to the orthopedic surgeon I was seeing when I fractured my wrist earlier this year. It wasn't that he was unpleasant but I was happy not to have to go back to see him again!

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    1. Linda, I bet you were happy not to have to go back and see him again! Good for you. :)

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  16. My hardest goodbye ever was to my grandmother when she died. I was out of state and they didn't expect her to make it through the night. Her heart kept stopping and she had a DNR. My sister called me from the hospital and put me on the phone with her. She said, I was waiting for you to call. I love you. She passed away while I was on the phone with her. My grandmother was like my mother to me. She is the one that taught me all I know!! It's been 7 years and I still miss her so much!!

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    1. Melanie,

      I was on a plane trying to make it to my grandfather's bedside. He was unconscious and the doctors didn't think he'd make it through the day. He did pass before I got there. To this day, it kills me that I didn't get to say goodbye, that I didn't make it there in time. That was 17 years ago and I still miss him.

      I'm so glad you got to say goodbye on the phone!

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  17. Besides my Dad when he passed (which was unexpected, which made it worse), saying farewell to my college friends as I knew some of them I wouldn't be hearing from again as they got wrapped up in the next stage of their lives. I have reconnected to a lot of them thanks to Facebook, so that has been great!

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